{"id":46,"date":"2020-07-11T14:33:33","date_gmt":"2020-07-11T14:33:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samanthaterris.flywheelsites.com\/?p=46"},"modified":"2020-07-12T01:12:55","modified_gmt":"2020-07-12T01:12:55","slug":"part-1-helpful-tips-for-transforming-challenging-moments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/part-1-helpful-tips-for-transforming-challenging-moments\/","title":{"rendered":"Part 1: Helpful Tips for Transforming Challenging Moments"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Strengthen your own self soothing capacity and resilience.<\/strong>&nbsp;Recognize and respond intelligently to the attachment patterns at play. Create trust, good communication and connection. Physically hold yourself &#8211; literally give yourself a hug or put your hand on your heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>These are suggestions.<br>Please do what feels right and comfortable for you.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Physically hold yourself &#8211; literally give yourself a hug or put your hand on your heart.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tap lightly on your chest, and say to yourself, \u201cI\u2019m okay, even though I\u2019m having big feelings and sensations.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Say to yourself, \u201cMy feelings make sense. I make sense to me.\u201d (self soothing)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Feel one place in your body that feels grounded. Stay with that place for 3 breaths minimum.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Notice what is really happening. Take the time to feel your own feeling &#8211; what is happening? What is the need behind the big feeling?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Start with speaking your truth to yourself..\u201dI am feeling\u2026(insert feeling).\u201d&nbsp; Put words to your emotions and send warmth to your own heart and experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What is underneath the feeling? Misunderstanding, lack of empathy, lack of space\/presence, lack of support, lack of respect or boundaries, etc\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>From here you can speak to the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I notice\u2026 (what actually happened&#8230;state simply).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I feel.. (fill in the emotion that is arising.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I have a need for\u2026 (love, connection, respect, follow through, acceptance&#8230; so many options here).&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Strengthen your own self soothing capacity and resilience.&nbsp;Recognize and respond intelligently to the attachment patterns at play. Create trust, good communication and connection. Physically hold yourself &#8211; literally give yourself a hug or put your hand on your heart. These are suggestions.Please do what feels right and comfortable for you.&nbsp; Physically hold yourself &#8211; literally give yourself a hug or [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":47,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pgc_meta":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":233,"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46\/revisions\/233"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samanthaterriss.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}