If being at home was not an emotionally comfortable nor safe place to be, this shelter in place can be a trauma trigger. This is because if a childhood trauma is re-triggered, the fear of something scary or dangerous, and the shame of whatever we lived through, re-emerges often with little or no awareness of the reason for these fears. […]
Being required to shelter in place, spend most of our time indoors in our home, and take walks only in our neighborhood, can create a host of responses from our mind and body. If being at home when you were younger was not an emotionally comfortable nor safe place to be, this shelter in place can be a trauma trigger. […]
Parents & Kids: Breathing, Meditating, Grounding If you haven’t read Part 1 of this blog series, click the button below to read it! READ PART 1 Practice: Breathing, Sounding & Meditating Take the amount of breaths that is your age. For example, if you are 5 years old, you are going to take 5 breaths. Breath in through your nose […]
When you take a walk outside, notice you are leaving the house, that you can leave. This is important for working with your trauma response of any feelings of being confined during this quarantine time. Feel the sun on your face and body. Breath fully. Resource with the beauty around you. Feel your feet on the ground as you walk. […]
Master The Moment! Co-Parenting Irony Your ex-spouse, if they are coparenting with you, is one of the people you can connect with in person since you are exposed to each other via your child. It is an irony of our times. With over 50% of families facing divorce and children often living in 2 households, we are in a strange […]
A CREATIVE RESPONSE TO A RESISTANT CHILD Creative Parenting Piano Practice Last night, my daughter did not want to practice piano. She loves piano, but sometimes, practicing is not the first thing on her to do list! After unsuccessfully attempting to make her do it, with the following tactics that often work: “The sooner you do it, the sooner we […]
Help Ground & Center, Boost Your Brain Coordination, & Support Learning! Parents & Kids Warm up Your Brain Practice: Tapping And Shaking Tap your body lightly waking yourself up! Don’t forget your head! Shake out your hands, and then your arms. Shake out your feet, and then your legs. Shake out your face, and relax your jaw and let a […]
REPAIR- A VITAL KEY TO GOOD COMMUNICATION & CONNECTION Good communication leads to deep bonding and a sense of trust, safety and belonging. It is essential to clear up the miscommunications or hurtful impactful moments in your relationships. Emotional scar tissue builds on top of old wounds with silence or repetition. Empathy and connection can not happen in this tight […]
For children, parents are very important people, with whom children bond and learn. Your children are part of both you and their other parent. Children and their parents belong to each other whether their parents are together or not. For your children’s sake, you as parents, both matter immensely. The energetic and emotional field between you both is real and […]
Bring the Pause button into the relationship – Saying the word ‘Pause’ means an immediate pause in speech. It is an invitation to take a minimum of three calming breaths. This slows things down when needed. Acquire a calm state and be able to make eye contact before speech continues. PART 2: HELPFUL TIPS FOR TRANSFORMING CHALLENGING MOMENTS If you haven’t […]
Strengthen your own self soothing capacity and resilience. Recognize and respond intelligently to the attachment patterns at play. Create trust, good communication and connection. Physically hold yourself – literally give yourself a hug or put your hand on your heart. These are suggestions.Please do what feels right and comfortable for you. Physically hold yourself – literally give yourself a hug or […]